How often to do a tarot reading for the same person?

Have you ever wondered how often it makes sense to do a reading for yourself or maybe even how frequently it makes sense to do a reading for others on the same topic? I have some thoughts on that.

Generally I would say that it doesn’t make sense to do a reading too often. The point of a reading is often to map out a situation and see certain plausible scenarios and then make a plan according to that. If you then decide to have readings done too often are more likely to than not to get a very unclear picture of what is really going on after a few readings. So what I recommend is to maximum get a reading done every 3 months for the same topic.

There are many people out there who come to tarot readers just to get confirmations from someone – or perhaps they are looking for that easy solution and just want to hear that it will work out. I suspect there will be more posts about that in the future, but that is not a proper tarot reading though. In fact, I find it unethical to “read” tarot that way just as a means to get an income. Often many of these people are in a vulnerable spot in their lives, and even if it is their choice to come to you and pay you with their money, it is still your own choice if you want to give them that or not. It is probably more responsible to try and help them out and empower them to make active changes in their lives. Unfortunately, not everyone is happy to hear that. Particularly not if they just came to get a confirmation of their own feelings in the first place, but honestly, then they shouldn’t have come for a tarot reading. That is not what it should be all about. That is not a way of reading tarot that I would be comfortable with.

It is not any different when doing readings for myself. I try to limit it to 3 months for the same topic and during that period I work according to my plan. I make my own decisions, never the cards.  It would be irresponsible if I did not. It is I that must live and learn.

-Thus spake the Night Spirit

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The right setting to read for others

Maybe you have come to a point in your tarot reading when you feel like it is the time to start reading for someone else. And by that I mean reading for somone outside of your comfort zone. Not your regular family and friends, but perhaps you have received an opportunity to read for friends of friends or maybe you even have considered to move on to get paid from clients.

Before you venture into that territory there are a few things that would be wise to consider. First of all you should have some ethical guidelines in place for what you think is ok and not to do as a reader. This post will not be about that. Perhaps I will write about it later at some point , but for the most part it is a lot of common sense such as do not read on people’s health etc. What you need to consider carefully though is what kind of reader you want to be and what it means to be that type of reader.

For example, let’s say you have been invited to a party and have been asked to do readings there. Some people are really excited about that, it could be a great opportunity to meet people and show them your tarot reading skills, right? Well, no, not necessarily. If you want to be the entertaining kind of reader that just read superficially then maybe it could suit you, but I have also heard and read about tarot readers going into the situation with very high expectations and end up extremely disappointed when they experience that the people at the party didn’t take the reading seriously at all.

Another possible scenario is that often tarot tends to get really personal really quickly, because people often ask about things that are rather personal to themselves or they don’t properly understand how personal the topic they have chosen could turn into. Potentially, you could have someone asking about their chances for love and in the cards you see that the opportunity just doesn’t seem to be right at the moment. Perhaps the person has the wrong mind set to attract a partner or whatever, but the point is, when you are at a party, they are in a completely different mind set. They are there to have fun and not get a life coaching lesson. Perhaps they secretly had hoped that they would find that special someone at the party. As a result they get sad, the party is ruined for them and even worse – you are to blame for it.

It is a very real situation that you could end up in, if you haven’t thought about these things beforehand and have a clear strategy of what you want to accomplish with your reading. Perhaps party reading isn’t for you. Maybe reading for people live isn’t for you at all. It is completely okay to read for people exclusively online as well. My most successful readings have been online, where I have the time to properly think of how the cards are lined up and interact with eachother. I find that reading face to face is a lot harder. And then there are people who are completely the opposite. They feel that they need to see the person and communicate throughout the whole session.

I just want my readers to think through properly what you want to accomplish and ask yourself one extra time if the setting around the reading is right for you. To do a mistake here can be costly and seriously damage the confidence in yourself as a tarot reader. It doesn’t matter if you weren’t taken seriously or if you crashed the party. Ultimately it is your responsibility that perhaps you were a little bit too eager and jumped into it before you had the fundamentals in place.

It might seem like another mountain to overcome to become a great reader, but it is definitely worth it to take a few moments to consider the setting that is appropriate for you so that you can feel comfortable and have control over your own tarot sessions. It is better to have done that and try to avoid that situation that could lead to a serious confidence hit and maybe even make you lose your interest in reading for others.

-Thus spake the Night Spirit

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